Rich and powerful people manipulate others by treating every conversation as a strategic game — not an honest exchange. While most ordinary people assume that what someone says reflects what they genuinely think or feel, elites in finance, politics, and business often enter conversations with a single question in mind: what do I need to say to get the outcome I want? This distinction, which Gary from Gary's Economics learned firsthand during a brutal period working at Citibank, is the key to understanding figures like Donald Trump, Elon Musk, and Vladimir Putin — and more importantly, how not to get played by them.
How Do Rich & Powerful People Actually Manipulate Others?
Gary's insight into elite manipulation didn't come from a textbook — it came from weeks of back-to-back meetings with senior management at Citibank while he was trying to leave the bank. What he witnessed was extraordinary: different managers, sometimes the very same individuals, would adopt completely contradictory strategies from one meeting to the next.
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Gary describes the surreal back-to-back Citibank meetings where the same manager would scream at him, then immediately join a Zoom call to say 'we believe in you'
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In one meeting, a senior manager would scream at Gary for an hour. Then, immediately afterwards — sometimes in the very next meeting, on a Zoom call with additional executives — that same manager would say, with a straight face: "We believe in you. We're really behind you." No transition. No acknowledgement of the contradiction. Just a total strategic reset.
The reason? Each meeting had a pre-agreed objective. Sometimes it was intimidation. Sometimes it was false warmth. Sometimes it was a classic good cop / bad cop routine. The content of what was said mattered far less than the strategic outcome it was designed to produce. The words weren't expressions of belief — they were tools.
As Gary puts it: "When rich and powerful people speak, more than anything it tells us something about what they want us to believe." That's the core insight. Stop listening to what they say. Start asking: what do they want you to think right now, and why?
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Gary explains why Trump's unfulfilled policy announcements make perfect sense once you understand game-playing versus honest communication
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What Is the Good Cop Bad Cop Tactic — and Why Do Elites Use It?
The good cop / bad cop dynamic is one of the most commonly used manipulation strategies in high-stakes corporate and political environments. In Gary's experience at Citibank, it worked like this: one senior manager plays the aggressor — shouting, threatening, creating fear. The second plays the ally — calm, sympathetic, offering to "help" the target navigate the situation.
The psychological effect is powerful. The aggression from the bad cop destabilises the target emotionally. The warmth of the good cop then feels like a genuine lifeline. The target instinctively wants to trust and cooperate with the good cop — not realising that both are working toward the same objective.
What made Gary's situation particularly revealing — and darkly comic — was that these meetings sometimes happened back-to-back in the same room, with overlapping participants. The mask-slipping was almost absurd. But it clarified something important: rich and powerful people do not experience this as dishonest. To them, it is simply strategic. It is the game.
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Gary recounts the Catan bluff and the Monopoly contradiction that show how people genuinely believe whatever serves their immediate goal
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Why Does Trump Say Things He Never Actually Does?
This is where Gary's Citibank experience becomes a lens for understanding modern politics. Donald Trump — and increasingly Elon Musk — regularly make sweeping declarations: "We're going to do this. We're going to ban that. This policy is coming." Commentators and journalists scramble to analyse the implications. And then... nothing happens. No policy. No attempt at policy. Just silence, until the next declaration.
Most people find this baffling because they apply ordinary-person logic: if someone says they're going to do something, they probably intend to do it. But that assumption only holds when the speaker is operating in honest-communication mode. Trump and Musk are almost always operating in game mode.
In game mode, a statement isn't a commitment — it's a move. It might be designed to energise a base, distract from another story, test the reaction of opponents, or simply fill space with noise that shifts the conversation. The question to ask isn't "will they actually do this?" The question is: "What do they want people to believe right now, and what does that get them?"
Why Do Politicians Constantly Contradict Their Own Policies?
Once you understand the game-playing mindset, political contradictions stop being mysterious. Gary points to a striking example: the Conservative Party in the UK spent years campaigning on anti-immigration rhetoric while simultaneously presiding over record levels of legal immigration. Similarly, Elon Musk funds anti-immigration political movements while actively lobbying to increase certain categories of immigration into the United States.
These aren't accidents or oversights. They reflect the fundamental truth that what powerful people say and what powerful people want are two entirely different things. Their public statements are strategic performances. Their actual behaviour reflects their actual interests — which almost always come back to accumulating more wealth and more power.
Gary uses a football analogy that cuts straight to it: "Don't watch the man, watch the ball. He's going to throw all kinds of feints — pretend he's going this way, pretend he's going that way. Ultimately, he wants to get the ball into the goal. And getting the ball into the goal means getting more money and more wealth."
What Really Motivates Billionaires Like Musk and Trump?
Gary argues that to truly understand figures like Trump, Musk, or Putin, you need to go one level deeper than ideology or policy. The core motivation — the consistent throughline — is the accumulation and transfer of wealth and power. Not just for themselves, but for their children.
When Putin invaded Ukraine, Gary admits he was surprised. Putin was already extraordinarily rich and powerful — why risk it? His first instinct was to look up Putin's age, and whether he had children. Because Gary understands that many elderly, enormously wealthy men are primarily focused on one thing: successfully transferring their empire to the next generation. That drive — dynastic wealth preservation — can explain decisions that look irrational on the surface.
The same lens applies to Trump and Musk. When evaluating their actions, ask not what they believe, but what they stand to gain — and what they want their children to inherit.
Why Can People Lie Convincingly Even to Themselves?
Gary illustrates this with two memorable examples from everyday life. In a game of Catan, a friend bluffed about holding a card he didn't have to force a trade — and defended it simply as "it's a game." In teenage Monopoly sessions, another friend would attack any deal Gary proposed, then immediately switch to attacking the opposite deal the moment Gary flipped the terms — without any awareness of the contradiction.
The lesson? When people desperately want something, they will genuinely believe whatever they need to believe in that moment to justify getting it. Don't expect consistency of belief. Expect consistency of desire. The ideology changes. The hunger for power doesn't.
How Can Ordinary People Protect Themselves From Elite Manipulation?
Gary's advice is clear, and it comes from personal experience: don't play the game. The moment you get sucked into the game — trying to win on the game's own terms, matching move for move — you are already losing, because the rules are designed to benefit the powerful.
He draws on George Orwell's concept of the "Two Minutes Hate" from 1984: powerful people benefit enormously when ordinary people are consumed by generalised anger and hatred. People who hate cannot unite. People who cannot unite cannot build collective power. The goal of much elite political rhetoric is not to solve problems — it is to keep ordinary people destabilised, divided, and too distracted to organise.
The counter-strategy is simple but requires real commitment:
- Stay mentally healthy. Anger and outrage are the tools being used against you.
- Talk to each other. Connection between ordinary people is exactly what the powerful want to prevent.
- Build solidarity. Allying with other ordinary people is the only way the game changes.
- See through the noise. Every wild statement, every contradictory policy, every manufactured outrage — ask what it's designed to make you believe, and who benefits from you believing it.
Gary's own escape from Citibank's pressure campaign came when he stopped playing by the bank's rules, stepped outside the game entirely, and refused to be controlled by it. He never got sued. He never went to prison. And he wrote the book. The same principle applies to all of us navigating this political moment: the way to win is to stop playing on their terms.
